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Creating Intention For Your Wealth

Oct 252011

It’s time for us to start looking at our money. You know how we think. We do not worry about money. We make positive rational intentions for our money and our futures and then they manifest. We use tools like a savings account interest calculator to figure out what kind of target income and savings we need then we create the intention. From there, the money always comes.

When we write about intentions, we always stress the fact that they need to be specific. The power of intention is like a genie. You need to be very specific and focused or you could end up with a little tiny head on your big body. Our big example is when we were on a cruise and Paul was drinking a little too heavily for creating life changing intentions. He said, over and over again, ‘I just want to lay around and write’. Two weeks later, he herniated three disks and was laid up for a year. All he could do was lay around and write. That is the power of intention gone wrong. Since then he has always been careful to state his intentions clearly and cautiously.

When it comes to money, intentions can be tricky. We had a friend that would say that he did not want to worry about his mortgage. From one angle, this is the accomplishment of the independently wealthy. From another, this describes the life of a homeless person.

There is a big difference between what we want and what we need. Most people create their financial intentions confusing the two. And, since most people do not truly know what they need or want, they are usually very disappointed with the outcomes. Getting clear on what we need and want is always the first and most important step to receiving our wishes.

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Jan 222010

Caught on film : God robs a man at gunpoint.

          Hola Friday! We’ve missed you. We had to put up with Monday and Tuesday and you were nowhere in sight. We aren’t going to get all victim but we felt a little abandoned by you right around Wednesday. However, when Thursday arrived, we could acknowledge that these feelings of ‘being left behind’ came from our issues of unworthiness of the wonders of Friday. With these realizations and awarenesses, we are prepared for the days to come with hope and resolute that Friday will return. Wow, maybe it would have been easier to say Thank God it’s Finally Friday!

          Lee says: You know I love politics. I used to take sides and argue and position myself. Today, since I am an evolved human being and am at the cusp of self-actualization, I watch the action from the sidelines and compare dysfunctions and neuroses of the politicos. I have no party affiliation and refuse to be categorized.

          One of my favorite things that politicians do is ignore countries. For example, many countries do not recognize Israel as a country. It is not unlike covering your ears and eyes and saying ‘La La La I don’t see you!’ It is extremely immature and shows the acumen the politicians who decide to do such idiotic things. Recognizing a country is not unlike acknowledging a relationship. Recognizing and acknowledging makes it real.

          We have mentioned that a step to creating healthy relationships is acknowledging them. As Paul mentioned, acknowledging is making it real, recognizing the existence and, in some dictionaries, it also mentions recognizing the rights, status and authority of something. Can you see how powerful that is? Saying that someone is your partner or boyfriend/girlfriend is a statement that acknowledges and provides status and authority to someone. You are no longer vacillating in the land of wishy washyness when you say ‘I have feelings and a quasi commitment to this individual. Please note that my acknowledgement comes with all the rights and duties as I set forth.’ It is a declaration.

          So if we do this with everybody in our life (i.e. This is my Mother, This is my Brother, This is my Husband, Child, Dog and Car), what do we acknowledge into existence for ourselves? How often do you tell people that you are an awesome human being? I know, we have slipped into hippy touchy feely crap and I readily acknowledge that but we must recognize ourselves as well. We are always prepared to label ourselves by our careers or commitments such as ‘I am a psychotherapist, wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend.’ I acknowledge all these duties and commitments. However, what am I to me?

          By virtue of your very existence, you are beholden to yourself. Whoa, say that again. Because you are here, alive, sentient, and aware, you are obliged to deal with yourself. So, what do you acknowledge (make real) about yourself? Let me help here.

          We wrote a whole book about Dysaffirmations (dysfunctional affirmations): these are, in a negative way, acknowledgements we make for ourselves. They are unhealthy and counterproductive to living a fulfilled and happy life. Plus, these are beliefs that we want to make real for ourselves like ‘I am useless’. I propose you list out all the acknowledgements for yourself. Acknowledge your beauty, your power, your amazingness, your lovingness. You are a gift to the world and you need to acknowledge that. We can start small and you just need to acknowledge that to yourself. We’ll buy the billboards later.

          Paul says: Apparently, Lee was eating her Wheaties laced ‘shrooms when she wrote this one. Wow. ‘By virtue of your very existence, you are beholden to yourself.’ That is some black hole deep shit right there. And it is totally correct. If I cannot sing my own praise, then who can? When God created everything, He said that it was good. Who am I to disagree?

          I say to hell with the billboard. Mountains were created to climb upon and call out our wonderfulness. Acknowledge beauty. Acknowledge peace. Acknowledge strength. Acknowledge grace. Acknowledge that gift that you see in the mirror.

          (Lee and I broke a sweat writing this one.)

Acknowledge Nothing!

Relationship Rejects

Jan 212010

Everyone knows that you hang an oompa loompa or else they wrinkle.

          We want you to stop right now and acknowledge all of the wonderful things that you have in your life. Go ahead. We’ll wait. Good. You just brought about an abundance of happiness. This is acknowledgement Thursday at CoupleDumb and that is what we are all about. Lots and lots of happy. Next week we’ll teach you how to make your own antidepressants out of common household items.

          Paul says: This week we are discussing acknowledgement and, as I began writing, I realized that I did not truly know what the word meant. Yes I would use it like the guy in the Princess Bride, the one that would spout out ‘inconceivable’ even though the events proved that it was really quite conceivable. So, being the kind of guy that read the dictionary as a youth, I looked up the word and was surprised to find that, within our transcendental meditation /tree hugger/ I don’t need drugs ‘cuz I’m like this naturally/ we create our own reality / hippie philosophy, the definition of the word in itself is really profound.

          From Dictionary.com, the most common definition of acknowledge is to admit to be real or true; recognize the existence, truth, or fact of.

          So if we are talking about acknowledging something in our relationship then we are actually saying that we are admitting that it is real or recognizing the fact of its existence. Now that we all know the definition, the big question becomes: What are you acknowledging in your relationships? Do you heap acknowledgement for the wonderful things like anniversaries, birthday, really good sex, or the fact that your whites are whiter than white? Do you only focus on the little bads? Are the only things that get ‘celebrated’ poorly washed dishes, stinky t’ain’ts and the extra 1000 miles between oil changes?

          Don’t talk bad about your partner. We have said it before but now you know why. We see so many couples that talk smack about their significant other. Not little shit talk either but the kind of stuff that would make the late Captain Lou Albano, in all of his resplendent rubberband glory, proud.

          Lee and I are pretty balanced in our acknowledgements. We do not dwell on the bad and we have been known to completely ignore the good. Or in other words, until recently, we didn’t acknowledge shit. Like most marriages, we learned to see the things that weren’t working first and, with a little healthy attitude, brought them into existence so that we could deal with them. Now we are trying to bring about the good things in life. How can you get rid of the bad or make more of the good if you never acknowledge that those things existed in the first place.

          One little addition to all of this philosophy : you can’t acknowledge something for someone else. Acknowledgement is a personal truth that you may share but you can never bestow. If you are acknowledging (through celebration) the anniversary of your love and the object of this love is not acknowledging it, then you are a stalker. You can only acknowledge that your boyfriend is a lazy fat fuck in that you see that you are responsible for choosing him. He might be acknowledging himself as a pleasantly plump thinker.

          Lee says: I acknowledge that my wonderful husband is a sexy man who knows how to curl my toes. I acknowledge that my children are brilliant and an example of our superior genetics. I acknowledge I have everything I need in my life to have the best life ever. Don’t believe me? Just watch.