About Lee Reyes-Fournier

I’m a 43 year old chunky woman who’s been married for 20 years to the bestiest man and have 3 of the most fantasannoying children in the world.  I am a professional psychotherapist with a specialty in addiction and marriage and family.  Being of Cuban-American decent, I have the wicked power of telling people off in two languages.  One of my biggest issues is that I was born 6 days before Christmas.  Unless you have a Christmas birthday, you can’t appreciate how that fucks up a kid. 

     About Paul Reyes-Fournier

Twenty years ago, I was a 128lb, six foot tall physics geek who thought that he would be content in a basement lab watching numbers pass on a screen. Fifty pounds and a lot of good sex later, I’ve made the transition nerd to business man. OK, maybe not a transition since I retain a goodly share of my nerdiness as evidenced by the fact that I can tell you the title of the original Star Trek episode by glimpsing only a few seconds of the show. (That little trick almost caused my wife to decide not to procreate with me.) I have a MBA (almost) and have served as Chief Financial Officer, Director of Quality Assurance, Real Estate Broker, and Contractor over the years. It’s amazing what people think that you can do when they see a degree in physics. 

     About the Reyes-Fournier Team

We were married in January of 1989 amongst the comments of ‘it will never last’.  Six months after we got married, the recession hit California.  Within one week of each other, we were laid off from our well-paying, professional jobs.  We enjoyed the time off until it became evident that people weren’t looking for therapists and that the aerospace industry would never again see the heyday it had enjoyed for decades.  So we carbo loaded on rice and mac and cheese. 

     Our only option was teaching.  Paul took to it like a fish to water due to his latent evil streak.  Lee taught for a while but soon found a job with the county working the mean streets of L.A. as a social worker.  A broken heel saved her from the machete wielding residents of South Central and she was back home mending.  To subsidize our income, Lee began to do accounting work for the family auto shop. 

     During all this time, we tried to get pregnant and found that Lee was in premature menopause caused by the pill.  We tried lots of treatments, even some drugs that left Lee temporarily blinded or with fevers over 104 degrees, all to no avail until  we were blessed with the gift of Jeannie, our first baby.  Jeannie had special needs from day one and we did everything to get her the best care possible.  Some days the only thing that got us through these times was our sense of humor.         

     With a new baby and the associated costs, Lee took on another job doing domestic violence, sex offender and substance abuse groups.  Paul went to teach at our high school alma mater. (Yes, we attended the same high school but did not know each other then.) Jeannie was at a specialist a few times a month and received several types of therapy a week.  She showed signs of being verbally gifted early on and that hasn’t changed.  By 1995, we packed up and moved cross country to Miami, Florida.  We bought our first home and were ready for major changes.  Paul continued to teach while Lee worked with Sex Offenders and crazy people. 

     Paul went through four other careers before he settled on ultra cool author. 

In 2003 we received a great surprise, Lee was pregnant.  We went through 6 pee sticks and a blood test for Lee to believe those results.  Bobby was born the day before Lee’s 38th birthday.  Three years later, Ricky was born 11 days after Lee’s 41^st birthday thus assuring that both her son’s would get equally screwed by the holidays. 

     We just celebrated our 20^th Anniversary and have a relationship that, to our constant surprise, is atypical for most in that it is loving, exciting, and fun.  After having people approach us to do seminars or write a book regarding relationships, we broke down and started this blog.  Our intention with this blog is to provide honest, sometimes raw, experiences from our own lives that will assist others in their relationships.  We welcome questions regarding marriage, relationships, children, families, sex, dog rearing, cooking and anything Sci-Fi (specifically original Star Trek).  Every question will be taken seriously and answered with candor.  Occasionally an expletive will slip so please do not let your small children read this over your shoulder – unless you constantly use expletives in front of them. If so, then have them read to learn correct spelling and usage.