http://coupledumb.com/2009/03/06/readers-question-how-much-is-enough/771 How we screw up love, relationship, marriage, sex, family Tue, 22 May 2012 20:29:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://coupledumb.com/2009/03/06/readers-question-how-much-is-enough/771#comment-102 Lee and Paul Sat, 07 Mar 2009 23:39:15 +0000 http://coupledumb.com/?p=771#comment-102 Ah, finding themselves...another euphemism created by people who don't know how to communicate. We created this whole mysticism to "finding oneself" as a catch all excuse for messing up relationships. Be honest! You aren't happy, move on! Secondly, I must comment on the cynicism of the comment "Don’t worry they will eventually come back when they are satisfied with their friends". Are you saying that that person can't receive satisfaction from their partner? I would suggest a quick breakup ASAP. The idea of the post was for couples to communicate their needs and boundaries. When one of you is feeling smothered then that is your issue and guess what, your friends will probably only help to confuse you not help you "find yourself". What you need is a mental health professional or a guru if you are looking to find yourself. Ah, finding themselves…another euphemism created by people who don’t know how to communicate. We created this whole mysticism to “finding oneself” as a catch all excuse for messing up relationships. Be honest! You aren’t happy, move on! Secondly, I must comment on the cynicism of the comment “Don’t worry they will eventually come back when they are satisfied with their friends”. Are you saying that that person can’t receive satisfaction from their partner? I would suggest a quick breakup ASAP. The idea of the post was for couples to communicate their needs and boundaries. When one of you is feeling smothered then that is your issue and guess what, your friends will probably only help to confuse you not help you “find yourself”. What you need is a mental health professional or a guru if you are looking to find yourself.

]]> http://coupledumb.com/2009/03/06/readers-question-how-much-is-enough/771#comment-89 Online Dating Sat, 07 Mar 2009 11:24:26 +0000 http://coupledumb.com/?p=771#comment-89 Right, communicate with your partner about the time you needed from him. Sometimes, partners need to be alone so they can find themselves. Don't worry they will eventually come back when they are satisfied with their friends. Right, communicate with your partner about the time you needed from him. Sometimes, partners need to be alone so they can find themselves. Don’t worry they will eventually come back when they are satisfied with their friends.

]]> http://coupledumb.com/2009/03/06/readers-question-how-much-is-enough/771#comment-86 Stephen Simone Fri, 06 Mar 2009 13:37:16 +0000 http://coupledumb.com/?p=771#comment-86 My partner and I are lucky that our work schedules allow each of us one day a week with the house to ourselves. I think these "mental health mornings" help keep us from being bored with each other. By the afternoon, I'm really looking forward to my hubby coming home. I'm not all shagged out from work, I've gotten my various chores done, and I'm refreshed enough to attend to whatever my hunny might need of me. We then still have one whole day we can spend together. My partner and I are lucky that our work schedules allow each of us one day a week with the house to ourselves. I think these “mental health mornings” help keep us from being bored with each other. By the afternoon, I’m really looking forward to my hubby coming home. I’m not all shagged out from work, I’ve gotten my various chores done, and I’m refreshed enough to attend to whatever my hunny might need of me. We then still have one whole day we can spend together.

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